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What is counselling?

Counselling is an intense focus or short-term consideration on immediate problems. Counselling can support someone in crisis has left them unable to function in every day life. I am a counsellor who uses mindfulness. I can set aside time with you to help you deal with what is happening in your life. I try and give you another viewpoint on what has been happening.

Counselling in a crisis

Counselling is like Psychotherapy. Short-term focused work is more appropriate for trying to help manage a crisis. I may offer advice to someone in a crisis. I try to empower a client to find their own solution to the situation.

Why would you seek counselling?

A death of a close relative. A relationship breakup. Debt management. Bullying in the work place. These issues need advice. Guidance is more appropriate than looking at patterns of behaviour. Advising clients can help them to re-organise their lives. To cope with the everyday. Counselling is short term support to help the client get back to a sense of having some control of their lives.

What do you normally get from counselling?

The activities are solution focused. They concentrate on developing coping strategies. I help identify what to do. Give priorities to activities, and producing lists of critical activities. Counselling can include referring clients to specialist agencies. Where more appropriate short term work may be helpful.
The number of counselling sessions is to between six and eight. I see counselling clients on a weekly basis. This way I keep a better handle on what happening for them. I offer practical short-term help for the current crisis.

Couples Counselling

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Couples Counselling

Bring back intimacy in relationship

Couples counselling is the process of helping intimacy in relationship to work again. Couples work is what called marriage guidance counselling. Relationships in life can offer a great sense of fulfilment and connection. Opening up to intimacy in a relationship can be a profound source of angst in our lives. Only when we are able to respect ourselves, then we can we form lasting, loving relationships. Couples counselling is two people who are having difficulties communicating.

With support take time and listen to each other

Couples develop bonds with each other. They form a trusting beneficial relationship. Couples work is offering witness to how relationship are. Bringing awareness to problems. Facilitating people in relationship to move back to a beneficial, respectful association. In busy daily life relationships are prone to ignored. Sometimes the relationship that has worked becomes tired or even habitual. Couples work, gives time with a therapist hearing problems. Opposing views.

If not checked conflict can fall into unhelpful, neglectful patterns of behaviour. The therapy room offers a safe place for couples to talk about their problems. Together couples work towards a solution. Using the mutual desire for the relationship to work.

Making the relationship work again

Once the therapist is able to ease an open and frank exploration. The couple can make the relationship work again is the responsibility of the couple. The therapist can only help ease, and where appropriate educate. Hold the difficulty that is being shared by the couple. The couple themselves have to do the hard work of making the relationship work again.

The couple need to put into practice what they have agreed to work on before returning to the therapy room. I see couples on a two weekly basis for 90 minute sessions, to practice what they have agreed.